Time on paper
Last night I had the very special privilege of being invited out to share a dinner with people who were the “wonderful women” in my friend LG’s life for Women’s Day. There were some ladies whom I had met before and some I had not, but what was most fantastic was the warmth of connection that can be generated through the mutual love for one particular person.
There were no speeches (although I wouldn’t have minded – I am one of those weird people who love listening to speeches, even bad ones, as long as they are personal.) But what LG did, which was even more beautiful was to write down a card for every person there and tell them what they meant to her and what she wished for them.
This truly made me think of how words can be better than any gift one can buy. I’ve often looked through letters my long-deceased grandmother wrote to me, or cards my husband has written to me over the years. Not only do these words capture a specific time or moment, but they are such a reassurance when you might just think times are hopeless or if one is burdened by sadness.
That is why I write a letter to my children every year around July and keep it for them. I write down why I love them, what I wish for them, and what they are like. When they are older, I will give them all those letters and they will be able to see the trajectory of their lives as their personalities and bodies grow and their interests change or clarify. It is a little piece of time on paper. My deepest feelings for them in words.
And so LG, I will reply to your card, and say what I appreciate about you:
You are able to love so purely and honestly and show by your actions that your husband, your family, your friends and your faith are important to you. Not just important but fundamental to who you are. When I was in trouble I turned to you, and you didn’t turn me away. You are a person who can stand up in a crowd and speak with such truth and beauty, but equally so, you always listen quietly without judging.”
Thank you for sharing your Women’s Day and friends with me.